Any Advice For Someone Who’s Sexually Awkward?

The person in question is me. It’s my anxiety that holds me back from possible relationships and physical intimacy. Though I think I’m getting better, there’s a long way to go. Any advice?


56 thoughts on “Any Advice For Someone Who’s Sexually Awkward?

      1. I’d just tell you to relax and simply enjoy the moment. If something like that gets into your head, it just amplifies and makes it worse. Get lost in the moment, and enjoy.

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      2. Ah. That isn’t always easy to do. The only advice o could give you on that is that if you meet someone you like, just walk right up and introduce yourself, be confident but at ease, then see where it goes. What’s the worst thing that can happen? 😃

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  1. I was immensely sexually awkward when I first became physically intimate with Al, who is now my husband. I just spoke from my heart – I asked him to take it slow with me, to recognize my cues and my voice. We waited a few months to have full-on sex, which was the best decision. He wanted to be with me early on, and I asked him, nicely, to wait. It was completely worth it. Granted, it’s different for everyone. It takes time to build confidence. Take it slow. Don’t be afraid to tell your partner about your feelings. It’s so important to feel confident when it comes to physical intimacy. It takes time. I still feel awkward sometimes, even though we’ve been together for 7 1/2 years, and married for almost 2 1/2 years.

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  2. As with most things in life, I would advise honesty. Be up front about feeling anxious and inexperienced. Almost every unattached person I know (whatever their age) uses online dating or contact apps now. Many people on those sites are boastful and brash, so perhaps be the opposite. Get online with a profile that admits to a background of bullying and anxiety, and find someone who wants to meet a man who is honest and vulnerable, instead of one who is false, and over-confident.
    As I always tell you, there really is someone out there for everyone mate.
    Cheers, Pete.

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  3. My advice is “don’t force it” if you’re anxious and not feeling it… Maybe there’s a reason. When you find someone worth having sex with it’ll be good no matter what because they’ll accept you and communicate with you… I know that sounds super corny. But, it’s absolutely true! Also, sometimes awkward can be fun. 😘💖

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  4. Sexual relations can be awkward but be easy about it. Exploring each other’s bodies can be quite fun. Slipping out of one’s clothes a little at a time is a great way to start. Just be open with your partner, your fears or expectations. I might even suggest from a naturist’s point of view to spend some nude time around the house. Get used to your body!

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  5. Um… I’m really not sure what I can add that hasn’t been said here already. You’ve got some good advice here, you just have to implement it. Aside from that, maybe some positive associations would help. Like doing something that you’re confident in and that you’re comfortable with beforehand, that feeling will carry over into your other activities.

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  6. From own experience, if you don’t own it and have that confidence, they don’t enjoy it as much, if your confident even if u make mistakes they won’t care. My lack of confidence led to us ending it.

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